So, you have been discarded. How does it feel? Awful, I know. Been there done that. Being discarded is a victory. Why is that? Let's take a look. The daily insanity has been reduced dramatically or completely stopped. You should take this time to celebrate the silence. In these moments, you may find clarity and … Continue reading CONGRATULATIONS, YOU HAVE BEEN DISCARDED BY THE NARCISSIST!
People often wonder about my happy demeanor and positive attitude after enduring almost five years in an abusive marriage and another 7 years of continued financial abuse post-divorce. My answer...I had to dig deep and my conscience is clear. The abuse I suffered in my marriage was certainly debilitating. It was a high stress and … Continue reading My Conscience is Clear
I decided to write this blog after watching, Forgiving the Narcissist - I am having trouble by Tracy Malone. Tracy's video made me think about my own battle with forgiveness. I had some serious work to do to forgive the narcissist. Personal Forgiveness I needed to start with me. I couldn't forgive the narcissist without forgiving … Continue reading Forgiveness
Acknowledging the wins is in the same vein as positive self-affirmations and reinforcements. It is a great self-esteem builder and reinforces the power of positive thinking. I used acknowledgements and affirmations frequently to keep me from swimming in negativity after suffering narc abuse. A win can be anything. It can be going "no contact" with … Continue reading Acknowledging the Wins: It’s Monday, and I am Winning!
Did He Really Love Me? I don’t think he ever loved me nor do I think he was truthful the entire marriage. I think he married me as part of a personal quota since he treated me more like property than a spouse. It seemed as if he had me around to serve his needs … Continue reading Reflection
So, I know you are wondering why I kept in contact with my ex. I did it because I was going to sue him. I needed to find out where he was staying when he was back in town so I could have him served. I backed off because I realized being in contact with … Continue reading Managing Myself – Closing the Door For Good
I was a damaged person after the divorce. My mind was like scrambled eggs, and my emotions were all over the place. I had trust, emotional and financial issues. I decided to go to counseling. Counseling was a great idea for me since no one in life understood what I was going through. "Friends" told … Continue reading Managing Myself – Cleaning Up the Mess