My ex-husband and I argued a lot. There were many tears shed during my marriage. There were days I would call in sick to work because I was so torn apart on the inside. Other days, I would cry all the way to work and sit in the parking lot crying until I could get myself together. After one of the many arguments, I decided I needed to leave…so I did.
I stayed the night at my parents’ house. No one bothered me. I walked into my old room and locked the door. I didn’t come out until the next morning. It turns out leaving was a great idea. It was a mini detox from the toxic environment of my marital home and marriage.
The next day I returned home after work. My ex-narc started in on me. This time I fired back and did not let up. My emotions were taken out of the argument. I stuck with the facts only. “I feel” and “I felt” days were over. He tried deflecting…didn’t work. He tried to pull what he could from the narcissist playbook…didn’t work. I realized he couldn’t make a valid argument about anything. It sounded like he was trying to argue someone else’s point. He eventually said that I kept turning things around on him. That couldn’t happen if he was telling the truth.
I felt pretty good after that argument. Subsequent arguments ended the same way or he would say, “Fair enough.”